It happens every year. We sit down and write our "do less" resolution list.
You know the list. Eat less bad food .. less pounds .. less cell phone at night .. less work .. etc.
This year I'm changing the list to be focused on what I am going to do MORE of.
more: a greater or additional amount or degree of
Change Your Attitude and Get Past Valentine's Day
Most New Year's Resolutions end before Valentine's Day. By mid-February, we tend to drift into a "what the hell was I thinking" attitude.
Doing "more" shifts our mindset. "More" changes a scarcity-based attitude into a positive frame that gives us permission to have or do ... well, MORE. And, generally speaking, we like more of good things.
Here's part of my list:
Love - I will do more paying attention to love and focus on its importance in relationships.
Health - I will do more healthy stuff by expanding the techniques I have learned about mind+body+soul.
Leadership - I will do more leading by leveraging lessons learned and skills developed across my career.
Self Value - I will do more sharing without worrying about what others think or say.
Temperance - I will do more to instill the importance of respect and temperance with those I come in contact with.
My Brain - I will do more to learn something new every day.
What's Your More?
At last count, there were 2.47 bazillion books written about goal setting—all with great intent.
But, truth be told, only YOU can set goals that matter for YOU.
You can't copy and paste your way to happiness.
What Do You Do?
I'd like to invite you to come with me on a journey.
Pick a Saturday morning and get up before dawn (that's early I know) and do this exercise.
Start with pen and paper. Draw four columns. At the top of column 1, write "What." Column 2, write "Why." Column 3, write "Willing." Column 4, write "Score."
In column 1, make a list of things you want more of. Love, career, health, finances, fun, faith - and be SPECIFIC.
In column 2, next to each item, write down the one reason it is important to you. Who benefits from it? Be truthful and SPECIFIC again.
In column 3, write down yes or no to the question of "Are you willing to do the work?" That's a hard question. So, be careful with the answer. If it's a "no," or a "maybe," draw a line through the item.
In column 4, score how important that item is to you on a scale of 1 to 3 (3 highest).
Then, draw a line through all the 1s and look at your list.
If your 2's don't change to 3's .. draw a line through them as well.
Keep all the 3s. That's your list and your starting point for building the "How" for each item.
2021 and Beyond
I want to challenge you to do this exercise every 90 days. Things change. Review your list and validate the WHAT + WHY + WILLING + SCORE progress. Don't be afraid to make adjustments as you go or add new things to the list.
The critical thing is .. do it!